Sunday, June 6, 2010


Have you ever wondered whether a friendship is worth the work? I have... and I'm having that "wonder" again lately. Don't get me wrong, I have some seriously awesome friends. People worth every bit of work... and they think I'm worth the work too. That's what a relationship is. People caring for each other even when it's hard.

Then there are the friendship leaches. The kind of people who give the illusion of friendship but are sucking every ounce of good out of you. I'm tired of feeling like I'm giving giving giving and not getting anything in return. I am a very loyal person, and the best friend around if you treat me right.

I'm not needy or clingy... and I like my space.
I'll take a phone call at 2 in the morning if you need me.
I'll take your kids when you're at the end of your rope and need a nap.
I WILL NOT get jealous if you have another friend.
I will make you laugh until you pee,
and I will love you even when you suck.

But for goodness sakes... If I invite you to my kids birthday party.... you better make a serious effort to be there.

One family came (aside form my parents). My cousin and her family showed up with bells on. Everyone else bailed. I specifically changed the date of the party so that everyone could make it. Then, no one did. There were some that had valid reasons for not being there. But some were just being flaky. The really sad part, is that those people have flaked over and over and over again and I keep coming back for more. Well, consider this your warning LEACHES.... you are no longer invited.

I'm done.

We had fun without you.


  1. They didn't deserve to be there!

  2. Ohhhh. I've had to let a friend go this year- without confronting her because I can't change her. And I've just grown away from her. Bravo to you to standing your ground and saying the truth. In writing! On the blog! Awesome. They soooo missed out. (and know in your heart that it is about them, and that they are not ready to be present for someone else!! and not about you and your beautiful son. )

  3. Thank you for your kind words. It's hard to let go even when you know it's for the best.

  4. You have NO idea how much I understand what you're going through. I don't know if it's me, or what, but this has happened to me with *several* people. Don't let it affect your spirits though - keep on being you, those who truly appreciate you will deserve your friendship. Just remember, you already have a friend in Puerto Rico!! :)

  5. Well then I think it's in both of our best interests that you move here.

  6. I completely understand how you feel. I've had several 'friends' who treated me the same way, and I decided awhile ago to not talk to them anymore. The photo of the party is really cute - they missed out!

    p.s. Thanks so much for the sweet comment on my blog! :)

  7. This is the first time I've been your blog that is...and I have to say your cousin is the! Oh...and it's my pleasure...would be anywhere with bells on for you and chicken...xoxo!

  8. Thanks dude... I already KNOW that! LOL! You too. xoxox